A Mother's Prayer

“Leave me alone! Leave me ALONE! I hate you!” I screamed at the top of my lungs as I swung a book across my bedroom.

My mother stood firm at the doorway and began to uncross her arms and place them on her hips. “Listen, Franchesca!” she began sternly, yet in a calm and collective voice. “You don’t hate me, but I know the devil does! And I will not let him have any power in my house or over my children!”

She began to walk towards me with so much confidence and authority that I was too scared to move. I stood right where I was as she raised her right pointer finger in my face. “I will not let the enemy think for one moment that he has won! Oh, no, no, no!” She shook that pointer finger fervently up and down as she spoke. She then put her hand on my head and stated, “I declare that you are the head and not the tail; you are on top and never below; you are a light in the midst of darkness; and you will leave footprints for others to follow, in Jesus name!”

And just like that, she walked out of my room.

Growing up in my mother’s household, she always had a way of commanding authority just by walking into a room - and she still does till this day! My mother has always believed that her three daughters are God’s inheritance given to her to nurture, care for, and raise here on earth. She has never taken the responsibility of being a parent lightly and made that very clear to my sisters and I every time she had to discipline us.

But if there is one thing that stands out to me most about her it’s her wisdom and caution in the words she selected to speak to us, over us, and about us. I can confidently say that I have never heard my mother calling me names, speaking down on me, or degrade me. If she ever was disappointed in me, she referenced my behavior, but never my person. She believes that there is great power behind our words to call things into existence and see them manifested before our eyes. Today, I am living out the results of those prayerful declarations, and I am grateful to have a mother who understood the prophetic power and weight of her words.

As parents, it is our duty to speak life and positivity over our children. In a society where our kids are compared, pitted against each other, and told they need this or that to be good enough, it is our responsibility to instill in them a sense of purpose, confidence, and aptitude. Oftentimes, we become frustrated with our children because of their behavior and their choices, but is it possible that your children are today what you spoke to them, over them, or about them weeks, months, or years prior? Have the common phrases like “you can’t do that,” “you’re worthless,” “you’re stupid,” “why can’t you be like X” been part of your vocabulary? Do you say things in the heat of the moment out of frustration or anger? The truth is, words are one thing you can never take back. However, you have the power today to start practicing positive affirmation and speaking life over your kids.

My mother had a practice that I have vowed to carry on with my children today. The declaration she made over me every time I acted up (the one I recounted above) was always the same. It became her assured response in place of her anger and frustration with us. My prayer is that we, as parents, will consistently choose to speak life, no matter what the parenting day may bring our way.