Don't Do It Alone: "The Solcon Shoe"

“So, to what do I owe this pleasant surprise?” Michelle asks me. I look down at my hands as I try to find the words to explain why I chose to pop up uninvited to her house.

“I just thought we could have some girl time, you know. It’s been a while,” I respond. She smiles and begins to pour me a glass of ice water. “Girl time, huh?” she smirks.

I chuckle softly. “A girlfriend can’t stop by for some time with her friend?” I ask as I take a sip of my water.

She leans over the counter and looks dead at me. “Fran,” she begins, “I know you. Are you going to tell me what’s going on or do I have to pry it out?”

I put my glass down and stare out the window for a moment. My heart begins to race and I can feel my chest getting tight. I put my hand to my chest, close my eyes, and breathe deeply.

“Fran…?”

“I’m experiencing a lot of anxiety and lately its gotten out of control…” I put my head down in shame. “I don’t really want to talk about it tonight…”

“That’s fine, girl. You don’t have to. I just want you to know that I’m here.”

I look up at her and she affirms me again, “I’m here for you…”


Many times, we hesitate to share our issues with others because we feel that we’ll be a nuisance or a burden. We all experience challenges from time to time - that’s just the way of life. And when those challenges arise, it’s important to have a support system that will encourage you and keep you grounded. 

One of the worst periods in my life was dealing with anxiety. I remember how stressed I was with work, school, and the many transitions I was making. I thought I was invincible and could carry my load alone. But eventually, my load became too heavy and started weighing me down. Does that sound like you? Maybe you’re currently at a place in your life (or have been) where you feel the weight of the world on your shoulders. Or maybe you're feeling like you've done all you can or given all you have and you can't imagine doing or giving one more thing. 

I want to remind you today that you don’t have to go through anything in life alone. Humans are designed to experience life together. That means that relationships are key to our survival and to our well-being. If you're going through something alone, it's because you want to do it alone. You may feel that you have no one to share your burden with, but the truth is that there are people around you who are willing to help you if you give them the chance. Whether it's family, friends, a church ministry, or a support group, you can reach out to others to help carry you through your tough seasons.

Whatever season you may find yourself in today - a smooth one or a tough one - I encourage you to reach out to people around you who care for you. Share the positive things that are taking place in your life and let others get excited with you! Share the tough things that are posing challenges for you to move forward and allow their wisdom and insight to shed some fresh perspective on your situation. Regardless of where you stand, it's great to know that you have people standing with you. For better or for worse, don't do it alone.