Drop It Like It's Hot: "The Dilih Shoe"

OMG, I just cleaned like 5 minutes ago! How in the world did my place get so messy again?!? In my eyes, everything seems to be out of place. I'm beginning to feel anxious as I eat my cereal on the steps overlooking the living room. A coat is hanging off the railing. The vacuum cord is hanging loose. The baby toys are scattered over the play mat. The couch pillows aren't nicely puffed. The list goes on...

I can't. I just can't. I put the cereal down before I have an anxiety attack. I walk over to the couch and begin to puff one of the pillows when suddenly...Stop! Just drop it, Fran, I hear the little voice in my head. It's the "stop overworking and take time for yourself" voice again. 

I'll take a break after I organize. I continue to arrange the pillows, and move on to the baby play mat when I hear the voice again. STOP, STOP, STOP IT! I lay down on the baby mat and begin to cry. I hear my husband walking down the stairs.

"Is everything OK?" he asks. 

"It's that time again," I respond. He already knows what I mean. 


Why is it so hard for us to take care of ourselves? Sometimes, we are so focused on our day to day activities that we forget about ourselves. If you're anything like me, you probably think you're taking a break when you get 5 minutes to yourself to scroll through IG and catch up on FB news. But the reality is that a true break requires us to disconnect from everything and anything that is emotionally and physically draining. 

Work responsibilities, family commitments, and personal activities will consume you if you do not take time to decompress. And here's a BIG one I recently discovered: Even doing what you love and are passionate about can and will burn you out if you don't know when to take a break. 

As much as we love to believe we are superwoman (or superman), our adrenaline will give out and force us to crash. Yes, you've experienced it already. Let me jog your memory. Remember the last time you were on grind mode for days, weeks, months, and then you suddenly got sick for a whole week and couldn't do anything even if you tried? Yea, that's your body's way of forcing you to rest when you forget to do it for yourself. Even if you're emotionally overworked, your body will physically let you know it's time to drop everything. 

So here's my plea to you this week. As the weekend approaches, be intentional about decompressing. I want you to "drop it like it's hot" (figuratively) before you experience burnout. That means if something can wait to get done, drop it. If a meeting isn't necessary, drop it. If a scheduled engagement isn't going to break a relationship, drop it. Use the time to do something fun and relaxing, something you haven't done in a while. You deserve it!